Marriage, ministry

Envisioning a new me: Can my life really change?


I was sitting at the foot of the bed with my dear friend, filling our last priceless moments together as full as possible before she got in her car to drive home to another state after a precious four-day stay in my home.

It was so endearing, so sweet that she felt right at home to jump up on my unmade bed and just tell me all about it. We talked about precious things of the heart and her face was glowing as she shared with me that the stay had been everything that she needed.

She felt refreshed, ready to go home and tackle life once again as a working single mom and youth ministry leader. She told me that she had felt so rested and relaxed, at peace.

I couldn’t help but beam with deep joy, electricity tingling on the surface of my skin, as I thought back to portions of my vision statement from day 4 in the Respect Dare, the dare I am focusing on this week to write a present tense statement about who I want to be and the life I want.

“My home is a warm, welcoming and peaceful haven for my family and is a place where we share meals and do ministry … Our rooms are filled with rare and precious treasures of peace, joy and love.” 

YES, God! You did it! You REALLY did it!

I have a busy household with three rambunctious boys, an active teenage daughter and three excited-all-the-time dogs. Chaos can easily abound! My sanity is often challenged by the symphony of constant motion and sounds whirring around me, which sometimes clangs in my head more like heavy metal.

So you can imagine how far-fetching it can feel to write such a statement about MY life, especially if you caught last week’s post about a particularly crazy chaotic moment from the past.

And yet, there it was. It had really happened.

That moment of validation was solid proof that God had accomplished the impossible for me once again, like so many times before!

MY home was a place where a weary momma searching for warm connection and friendship could come and find the peace and rest her heart was longing for, a refill for her soul.

Now THAT’S the power of God, Amen?

CC74vcS (2)I’ve come to learn over the years how important my thoughts are, how they shape outcomes.

Henry Ford was spot on with his famous words, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t you’re right.”

God calls us to do some big stuff, some bold, edge of our seat living, and it starts right in our homes, our most important mission fields!

Raising kids and making disciples of them is no small task. Being a Godly wife can feel like trying to summit Mount Everest. This is NOT for the faint of heart.

There are so many variables. We can’t control the people and situations around us. It may feel like everyone and every thing is working against us, including the kids writing on the walls in green sharpie and doing flips off the couches.

It’s easy to get overwhelmed and stuck in stinkin’ thinkin’ patterns. ‘I can’t do this.’ ‘This is too much.’ ‘Nothing will ever change.’ ‘I am a failure.’ ‘Why try?’

Any of that sound familiar?

All we can do is do our part and let God be God.

HE can do for us what we can’t do on our own. Like change the environment in our homes. Or change our habits. Or make our dreams a reality.

YES, we MUST DO OUR PART. Moment by moment, action by action, decision by decision, word by word, we must do our part.

In Celebrate Recovery, we often talk about living one day at a time, one moment at a time. It’s each moment that builds up into the long-term accomplishment of our goals!

We also must believe that God’s promises for u5185ae92303a82e319aac55038ee7416s are true.

We don’t have to be perfect. We’re all just sinners saved by grace, and the Bible tells us in Romans 4:3 that faith is counted as righteousness, and friends, that is some good news!

So what about you? Do you BELIEVE that God can change you, transform you and your relationships, your home, your world?

Do you take Jesus at His word in John 14:13-14 that whatever you ask in His name, this He will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son? “If you ask me anything in my name, I will do it.”

If you’re joining me in this Respect Dare challenge, can I encourage you to think big, as in ‘I can’t do this on my own?’

There’s so much research out there that connects our thoughts to our outcomes.

God calls us to train our minds, take our thoughts captive!

Psalm 19:14 says “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.”

And Philippians 4:8 calls us. “Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, if anything is excellent or worthy of praise, think about such things.”

As you write your vision statements, be encouraged that research proves that if you write down your goals, you are more likely to accomplish them. In fact, some life coaches will tell you your success rate is a gigantic 80 percent higher if you write them down!

I have personally seen this time and again in my own life!

Here are a couple of more verses to chew on as we move forward, eyes on the prize:

“Jesus said to her, “Did I not tell you that if you believed you would see the glory of God?”” John 11:40

“I remain confident in this; I will see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living.” Psalm 27:13 

“See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” Isaiah 43:19

So, go ahead! Be bold and WRITE it down – that vision you have for you, your life, your marriage.

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Love everything about you, my friends. Thanks for letting me share.

Writer’s note: I’m in week 4 of a 40-week journey through my favorite wife 101 resource, the Respect Dare. Our marriages are our most important mission fields! To get your copy, click here.






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